I have learned that for 2 people to become one as friends, lovers and life mates, it takes compassion, passion and compromise. When you encounter a real "pain in the ass" it is likely you have no one to share or deflect it - that is where your friends and lovers come in. I am intedrested and will be in The Netherlands for a short time this summer - if you are interested, email me back and we can being to chat.